Category Archives: Obsessive Behaviour Disorder

Family Tip of the Month in Samuel’s World – July

July’s Tip of the Month – Pocket Money and Top-ups?????

coins and cash tin

Money Money Money repeats Samuel with more and more excitement!!!! Pocket money is a very difficult situation to get to grips with and not an easy one to control!!!!

Because Samuel gets obsessed with various objects and items, getting pocket money and understanding why he has been given it is an even harder challenge for Samuel to realise….With this in mind though it is still an important hurdle to jump over helping Sam to gain more independance and raising his self esteem with small rewards.

Star Charts – do they work???

As a family we have tried all the Star Charts etc until we are blue in the face and exhausted, however they do work for some families, just not ours – recently we went on a ADHD course run locally to where we live and one of the parents there mentioned this idea which we have adapted to suit Sam.

Pocket Money Day – How much do I get Mum???

Each week we give Sam 50p on a Friday so that he can go down to the local shop and buy a fruit lolly. At home Sam does have a board which tells him whether it is his turn to watch the television or not – this has worked a treat by the way !!!!! Less arguments with his sister…..Each day there are certain things that Samuel will do that annoys us and that are unneccessary – one example is that he will always chuck his wash flannel at the ceiling in the bathroom just as you are finishing his wash!!! To try and break the cycle of events, for every day Samuel does not throw the flannels he will get an extra 5p – ( the amount of money you give your child can be changed to suit your own situation) – we have found that this inncentive has worked for Samuel and the first week he got an extra 20p!!!!

A Log Book!!!

To try and get Grace involved as well and for other siblings in your family we created a diary/log book so that each time Grace remembered to brush her hair morning and evening we would make a note and tally up the top-ups at the end of the week. Grace is always forgetting to brush her teeth and never puts her clothes away!!!!

One at a time!!!

Don’t get too excited and make up a long list of what your child needs to remember to do as your child will quickly go off the idea and get more stressed leading to an anxious family – this whole idea is suitable to eliminate one at a time a habit that has formed which you want to break. It is suitable for any age and can be changed and altered to suit your child’s needs.

Have we progressed???

Sam now values why he has achieved his pocket money and can see what treat he gets at the end – he has even started to put his socks and pants away in his box!!!!

Beware!!!

Like all these reward ideas you do need to keep on top and monitor – if you forget to keep it going then it is very easy for your child to forget what they are trying to achieve and to learn.

Family Reward Time??

This is important and can easily me missed!! We have decided as a family to have a day out each month if we have all behaved well – parents included!! It will give us all a boost and some precious sharing time as well.

Family Tip of the Month in Samuel’s World- March and April

April’s Tip of the Month – Easter Cooking

easter egg

Well it’s that time of year when our children go on overload with the massive choice of Easter Eggs galore!!!!!

It is supposed to be a celebration and a funtime but so far in Samuel’s life Easter does bring certain problems along the way and it is usually sweets and chocolate that bring out his ADHD with a vengance!!

I must admit I do find this a difficult time and hate to keep saying no to sweets all through the year and so last year I went out to all our local food stores and Health Food Shops to see if there are really any sweets or chocolate that would not bounce Samuel off the wall so that he could enjoy Easter as much as all his friends.

sweets

Did I find anything?????

I must say the Health Food Shops came up trumps in my book and I was able to find a lot of sweet products that do not have colourings, additives or sweetners in their ingredients and I bought a selection of items and rushed back home with glee!!

The sneaky part!!!! – Sshhhhhhhhhhhhh…….

You have to be once in a while I am sorry to say but it was for a good cause – me for one so that I would not be climbing the walls after Sam and of course for Sam so that he would have fun and feel like everyone else.

laughing bunny

Having got all of my sweets and chocolates safely hidden away, I had managed to find in another local gift shop (Whittards Cooffee/Tea Shop) for those of you of live in England, a selection of decorative Easter Egg containers already with packets of juicy additive packed Jelly Beans, these were swiftly removed (eaten by husband) and replaced with my own (free of any nasties) sweets.

We then were able to have a Easter Egg Hunt around the house where I labelled each Egg with the child’s name, which saves on arguments and battles!!!

Cooking Time in the Kitchen

What a horror I hear you saying and yes I could not agree more!!!! This has been an area of disaster for Sam and myself with most of what we have been cooking ending up on the floor or half eaten before we have completed the cake!!

For those of you who live near to a Sainsburys or Tesco – (overseas I am sorry, but something similar would do the trick) flock down their now!!!

gingerbread men

On the shelf you will find in the quick baking section hopefully a box containing a Gingerbread House Making Kit. It contains simple instructions with ready made large pieces of gingerbread for you and your children to be able to build your own house. The icing paste comes in a ready made bag and is really like dough which you use to stick the pieces together. Also included are lots of various bags of different sweets which you can either take a chance with or replace with your lovely Health Food Shop ones!!

This was an enjoyable time for Samuel and he was absorbed for a whole hour sticking and fixing the house which does not fall down!! Samuel was able to concentrate for the first time without dashing around the room and carefully position each sweet on the various parts of the house feeling that he had actually built this house.

For the first time ever we were able to film this special event without that ending up on the floor and he could then watch himself making the house.

He gained a lot of confidence and self esteem with the baking and I will be doing this again.

Believe it or not I was away that week for respite with my mum and my husband Lester had taken over the role of mum and so this was a memorable moment for Lester as he did achieve some precious time with his son without it turning into a battlefield, plus they finished off the afternoon tasting the house and laughing over which bit to bite into next!!!

sunrise

March’s Tip of the Month

ticking clock face

My Pal The Time Timer!!!

Clocks, clocks, clocks – we tend to try and run our day by time whether it be for school, appointments, catch-up with a friend or just cooking the dinner.

bunny running late

If I was to ask myself what stressed me the most with my day it would be being late and constantly feeling like I am running for a bus or train all the time!!!

I must say that since Sam was diagnosed I have been more relaxed about where we should be at a certain time but it still becomes an issue.

LDA Online Website

You will find this website via my link page – do click and have a look, its a great site with lots of resources which is where I got most of our first games etc. The price we paid was around £20.

It was searching on their website that I came across a Time Timer, a clock which comes in various sizes from alarm clock size right up to a classroom size for all the children. The one I decided to get was the medium one which can be placed anywhere in the house easily. It stands in its own mount and has big bold numbers for easy reading.

You dont’ have to know your time!!

The beauty about this clock is that your child does not have to know their time – the clock counts down the seconds and minutes by decreasing a red colour – for example Sam was hopeless at leaving the lounge when watching the TV and I used to find myself like a spider with eight legs trying to prise him off the screen!!

It worked!!!!

Having opened the package the next morning and showed Sam exactly what the clock was for, before he sat down to watch his programme set his watching time to 30 minutes – if your child is a whizz at telling the time they can set the clock. Once set the clock will show 30 mins of red colour. As the time ticks away the red colour gradually diminishes. Once the red colour has completely gone Sam knew that 30 mins had finished and that it was time for bed.

To have one evening without a struggle and to have an evening full of smiles and cuddles is worth a million!!!

Ps – Don’t forget, the clock is useful for everyone in the family – we can’t be good time keepers all of the time can we??

lynette xx

Obsessive Behaviour Disorder – what is it?

Samuel’s OBD

Collections

assorted rubber bands

I can remember specifically one day when I realised that Samuel was different to other children and it was when we walked to school one day last year in 2005, Samuel took over 1 hour to reach school – not because he was dawdling or complaining – but because he had to collect all the red rubber bands the postman had dropped on his rounds along the way!! My patience level wained that day and for Grace as well as he repeated the whole exercise again on the way home at 3pm following another trail of rubber bands! Samuel collected so many we made a large ball out of them much to Samuels delight….

More Collections

pepples and stones

From rubber bands it was stones or pieces of glass that looked like jewels – I wish he could have stuck with the rubber bands! That became more of a problem as these so called jewels were smaller than rubber bands and so took longer to find! After a couple of weeks of this hoping it would soon pass I had to give in to driving the car so that we could pass all of these temptations along the route!

And more!……….

Acorns, conkers, leaves, can tabs – the part you pull back, milk bottle tops – what more can you find along 1 main road!

The Office Man!

It was last year when Samuel would constantly come home from school with yellow post it note pads in his pocket and blue tac. His poor teacher kept on going to her desk only to find it had walked off! After several weeks of still more blue tac the worst was yet to come…… “Mrs Coates – Samuel has put blue tac up his nose” Its normally a pea or a sultana – but blue tac? Thankfully it did surface – but it did not stop him from loving blue tac.

What toy would you like – a remote controlled dinosaur or a box of paperclips?

coloured paperclips

What would you choose? – I would like a go of the dinosaur but for Samuel it would have to be the paperclips. If you removed all of Samuel’s toys from his bedroom and kitted him out with every office supply/stationery from Staples or Office World it would make his day. Pens, pencils, sharpeners, rubbers, tippex tape, cellotape – has to be on the reel – and labels!!!…….

Who can I get to sign next?

We recently went to St Georges Hospital for his assessment and for the whole 5 hours that we were up there Samuel proceeded to obtain every member of staff’s name by asking them to sign one of his labels he had taken with him, of which he had 100. He could have taken a gameboy or a colouring book – just a pen and a box of labels. He was highly amusing and bravely marched up to any doctor that happened to pop out of their consultancy room.

The Annoying Obsessions for Samuel

These are upsetting for Samuel as he just has to do certain things just the right way in the right order – sometimes he has to touch an object 4 times then 8 times, a prod here or there on me or daddy but it has to be on the same spot and if it does not feel right he will have to repeat the action again and again. Thankfully Samuel has not prodded a person he does not know on the street yet or tapped a person’s bottom just like he has to tap mine!

10p, 20p – is that my £1?

keys and coins coins and cash tin

Coins, coins, coins – Samuel is like a metal detector – if there is money around he will sniff it out! Each year I have a large old sweet jar which I put all our copper and 5p’s into and at the end of each year we all go down to Sainsburys to their cash counter machine to see how much we have. It usually goes towards our Christmas Tree – its a way of showing Grace and Samuel how to save pennies and what you get at the end of it. It was only after I had moved the jar one day from behind the curtain that I realised that more was going out than what was going in! £3 worth of 5p’s was found in Samuel’s bedroom in columns all in a row..

Samuel’s bedtime routine

God forbid if I forget what to do next in what order as Samuel will pick me up there is no doubt! We all like to do things sometimes in a neat way – I know I do – In anything Samuel does during the day it is always the same way at the same time – watching television – Samuel has to watch a programme on the same seat with the cushions arranged in a set pattern next to him – having dinner at lunchtime – if I did not warn Samuel that we would be having a cooked dinner when he normally has a sandwich it would start a full meltdown of rage.

Visual Timetables do help

These have been a real asset!!!! Bought my one off Ebay – but they are easy to russle one together – a laminated card with velcro rows, an assortment of pictures ranging from “go to the toilet”, get dressed, brush your teeth” Each night I change the tasks for the following day so that when Samuel comes down in the morning he can look at it and know what he is doing. Explaining his actions in pictures is much better than just in words which sometimes mean nothing to Samuel.

I wonder what he might want to collect tomorrow??

fir cones keyrings

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